There were two sisters: Jeanne and Iris. Jeanne married Sid and their sons were Mark and Joe. Iris married Bud and their children were Scottie and Sherry. Among the four blood cousins, I was the oldest, ahead in age by several years. I did not have the childhood closeness that my brother Joe had with Sherry; they were closer in age. Joe remained close with Sherry during our adult years, even though both Joe and I moved West as young guys. After Scottie’s untimely death while in college, the family suffered, and Sherry had to bear the loss of her younger brother. And then the blood cousins were three. For me through the years, when there were the occasional telephone check-ins and visits together, it was wonderful to be with Sherry, and eventually with Sherry and Paul and family.
Sherry was the ultimate maternal presence, a strong woman she was, taking in so many troubled souls and making them part of her life. I saw this especially with Paul's children and eventually with little Mia. Times together with Sherry included education in family history-she knew and remembered so many details. And she was the photo librarian for my mother's side of the family. When we were together it was fun. There was much laughter, some sarcastic humor, many warm moments and a lot of memories. When we came together it was a reunion; it was family. She called us "cuz," Cuz Mark and Cuz Joe.
During most of Sherry’s long illness, her strength was unwavering and her commitment to family unbroken. She lived for her family, for Paul and Mia. Now she’s gone, and the blood cousins are two. Paul was amazing in his devotion to Sherry during the last stages of her illness – cousin Paul.
May your soul soar with the angels sweet Cuz, soar with Scottie’s soul in joy, and soar free of your body so ill for so long. You are loved and may your memory be for a blessing.
Mark Friedman
May 20, 2024