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I met Barry and Judi in 1965--a long and very important friendship. I have such happy memories--young married couples, having kids, moving to different cities and a constant and profound relationship. Barry was such an interesting guy--had such varied interests and could have significant conversations about so many subjects. Generous and hospitable and very very bright without being pedantic. This is a HUGE loss. Love and sympathy and sadness to Judi, Michael (Vanessa), Dana and (far too connected to be called extended) family. I will never forget Barry. Nor will others, I'm sure.

Wendy Tucker (Tockman)

Dear Judi and family,
Thinking of you at this time.
So very sorry for your loss.
drora and dror kopernik

drora and dror kopernik

We are so sad to learn that Barry passed away. His life as a respected professor, beloved husband, father, "huggable uncle", and friend, all point to his impressive impact on the world. He lived a wonderful life, filled with love, family, friendships, scholarship, curiosity, travel, and scholarship. Barry knew what was important in life.
Judy, we hope that you and your family are comforted by countless happy memories of life with Barry. Please know that we are sending you love
at this difficult time.
Deepest condolences,
Anita and Harold Kosova

Anita and Harold Kosova

Barry, Judi and Dana became part of our small family when my sister married their son Michael. It truly was an honor to have had the pleasure of his presence during these many years. May your soul rest in peace without pain, without suffering. Till we meet again, thank you for kindness and wisdom. My condolences to my extended brother and his family during this time as I also know how hard it is to lose a father- my mentor and best friend.

Gustav Piepenburg

What can we say about Barry that everybody doesn't already know. Brought a light into each room he entered, loved joking and seeing people smile.

That is his Super Power and he will be missed!

David Millunchick

Barry was so kind and compassionate. He always went out of his way to help me and make me laugh. He and Judy were on the same wave length. They Were A Wonderful Couple.

T heir apartment was stunning . Classy People.

A Special Man Never To Be Forgotten.

May his Memory Be A Comfort To His Family.




Elissa Rolnick Rubinstein

Gruncle Barry, we will forever treasure the memories of fine food, fine wine (sometimes bad, but always enjoyed), and the love you shared with us. You were never just the in-laws friends to me, but Framily.

Katie Reitman

We wish we could have been with with you in person today, but it was so moving and meaningful to at least attend Barry's memorial by zoom. All of the speakers certainly described the kind, wise, warm man we knew and loved. We will certainly try to honor his memory by continuing to cultivate those qualities in ourselves. Berry's memory will definitely be a blessing to us. We will be thinking of you all fondly during these coming days and seasons. Much love from the rest of Barry's and Judi's Chico family, Jean and Douglas

Jean Hegland

I met Barry in late 2014 or early 2015. Wendy, a mutual friend, introduced Judi and me on-line., as we shared a medical diagnosis. We met in person at a Highland Park Starbucks, surely thinking we'd compare notes and go on our separate ways. At least three and a half hours later we knew we'd be friends from then on. Shortly after that Phil and I met Barry and we socialized whenever we were in the same city. When in Chicago, we tried new restaurants, old favorites of theirs that we didn't know, did some interesting cultural tours, and even stayed with them one night. There, they introduced us to Rachel Madow, (on the TV of course), that intelligent voice of reason which to us was totally unknown! They made a short visit to Phoenix, and we stayed a couple of nights with them at one of their VRBO houses in San Diego. No matter where we were, the conversations were always thoughtful and stimulating. It was a joy to just "hang out" and talk. One night in CA, we talked right through the dinner hour, didn't want to break the vibe, so stayed in and had a salad that Judi put together from whatever was in the fridge, and a frozen pizza, (our first Cauliflower crust). The talking just went on.
My description of Barry is that of a man who was calm, reasonable, content, and just happy to be around Judi and people he liked and loved. One who enjoyed good conversation as much as a good wine or an interesting restaurant or new travel destination. If I had to boil it down to one word? He was nice. He was a very nice man. He was a mensch. I am sorry for us that we had such a short time to be in his company, to spend time with him. I am so very sorry for Judi, Dana, Michael, and Vanessa, and all the people who so obviously loved him.
To say he will be remembered is redundant, but so very true.
Ellen Leavitt


Ellen Leavitt