Funeral Details

Cary M. Berman

October 19, 1962 - June 23, 2024


Date and Time

Friday, June 28, 2024 at 2:00 PM


Shalom Memorial Park
1700 West Rand Road
Arlington Heights, Illinois 60004
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Rabbi Moishe Raitman
Congregation Or Simcha


North Pointe Condo Association - The Meeting Room
2555 Gross Point Road
Evanston, Illinois 60201
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Following the interment 4PM - 7PM

Memorial Contributions

Congregation Or Simcha
237 Thelin Court
Wilmette, Illinois 60091


Cary M. Berman, age 61.

Dear husband of Carmen Hernandez. Beloved son of Nettie Berman nee Zlotnik and Richard Berman. Cherished brother of Heidi (Richard) Goldblatt. Proud and loving uncle to Brayden Lindsey, Addyson Mahri, Mason Cole, Ricardo, Jose, Brian, Jeff, Victor, Omar, Usman, Alex, Brandon, Nolan, Roman, Eric, Ana (Patty), Alicia (Aly), Jennifer (Jenny), Cristina,Maria, Melissa, Nadia, Elizabeth, Raquel, and Stephanie. Fond nephew of Jack Zlotnik, Dr. Jerry (Sue) Berman, and Dr. Steven (Dr. Gloria) Berman. Treasured cousin of Michael Zlotnik and Jorie (Dan) Lombard. He will be remembered and missed by his many relatives, cousins, and friends. His gentle caring soul will continue to inspire and bring light to our lives. May his memory be forever a blessing. Cook County Public Defender for over 27 years. Service Friday 2 PM at Shalom Memorial Park (Sec. VII Nebo) 1700 West Rand Road, Arlington Heights, Illinois 60004. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to Congregation Or Simcha 237 Thelin Court Wilmette, Illinois 60091 Arrangements by Chicago Jewish Funerals - Buffalo Grove Chapel, 847.229.8822,


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Dear Carmen and family,

So sorry to hear the passing of Cary. I worked with him in the public Defendrrs office for at least 25 years. So many good memories and laughs.

Cary was a great person and a good friend.

Rest in peace Cary

Lisa Rabiela

Lisa Rabiela
June 27, 2024
I worked with Cary for 10 years at the Cook County Public Defender. Such a kind person with a great sense of humor. So so sorry for your loss.

Todd Shanker
June 27, 2024
Cary touched the lives of many hearts and myself, included. I’m so thankful to have the opportunity of knowing and looking up to him. He was so compassionate and selfless. Always believing in the power of helping others, and it showed in everything he did. Cary was not only an uncle to me, but a second father and I could not be more appreciative of all the fond, unforgettable memories I have with him and Carmen. As you all are thinking of him, I want you to think of the charismatic person he is with the most touching words. He has always been and still will be such a significant part of my life that I wish always cherish and honor.

With Love,

Stephanie Diaz
June 28, 2024
Our thoughts and prayers to all of Cary’s loved ones. He was such a kind and caring man to everyone. We are blessed he was a part of our family and admire the many accomplishments he had in his personal and professional life. May he continue to spread his infectiously positive energy to all those who knew him. Rest in peace Cary.

Our deepest condolences,

Khan Family

Khan Family
June 28, 2024
Tio Akiva,
You have always been more than just an uncle to Stephanie & I. You truly did treat us as your kids. You promised to always help us out in order to achieve our dreams. Inspired us to be anything we wanted. You more than kept your promise. You opened your big blue heart to our family & I can’t thank you enough for it. You always had time to take us to the pool whether it was 8:00 am or 8:00 pm. You showed me that even adults can keep their huge personality, high energy and remain goofy & active. From wearing every shade of blue, taking a picture of everyone & everything, going on about the benefits of kale juice or eating a whole spinach & cheese pizza to yourself. It inspired me to be the best father I can be, constantly playing and goofing around with my son. Everytime you felt the need to encourage me or give me advice, I’m convinced you always relied on four options: Bring up the plot to the matrix, use a song lyric by Genesis, a quote by Bruce Lee or take an excerpt from the Torah to somehow relate to what I was going through. I’m wearing your favorite blue tie today in honor of you. I will always miss you & cherish all the memories you gave me. I love you Cary, you were truly a second father to Stephanie & I.
Love, Brandon

Brandon Diaz
June 28, 2024
Our hearts are with you on this very sad day. May you always remember the good times and forget the bad ones. We wish we could be there with you today, but know we are there in love and doirit

Howard Weinberg
June 28, 2024
Cary has always been one of the kindest and most gentle people ive ever met. He’s always treated us like his own children and gave us some of the best memories growing up. I will always remember the times we spent together and the things he taught me in life

Roman Hernandez
June 28, 2024
My heartfelt condolences for the loss of Carey. He was a sweet spirit who brought a lot of laughter and joy to everyone who knew him. He was a great support system to me and source of positive energy when I got hurt and for that I will always be grateful.

Usman Khan
June 28, 2024
Cary was the kindest, most considerate person. He was nothing but genuine and caring to me and everyone around him. He was the first to congratulate me during my graduation, and always calling asking to see how everything was going. He was also hilarious, whenever anyone was around him you couldn’t help but smile.

Eric Hernandez
June 28, 2024
As a family, we are without words to express the deep sadness we feel. During this time, amidst the heartache, I return to your smile, Cary. Always ready to greet me with a big smile and a warm hug. Your gentle presence was always comforting. Your undying support and love for us is ever present. Rest and rejoice in the heavens above for we have an angel watching over us.

With love,
Glenn and Jenn Bartholomew

Jennifer Roman
June 28, 2024
I loved his humor. The first time I asked him if he wanted a drink he said ”water. And if I really get crazy I’ll have you put a lemon in it.”

Scott Kozlowski
June 28, 2024

Your loving and caring nature will always be in our hearts. You patiently taking pictures of all our many family members in El Salvador and making sure we all had those memories. Always made us feel loved.

The Kozlowski Family

Ana Kozlowski
June 28, 2024
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal. Love leaves a memory no one can steal.

Cary will be greatly missed member of our family. He was a kind and gentle soul.

Rest in Peace,
Brian & Gayle

Brian Roman
June 28, 2024
We will be forever grateful for your presence in our life. Thank you for the memories. You will be missed.
Aly Hernandez-Pacheco and Family.

Aly Hernandez-Pacheco
June 28, 2024
My deepest condolences to Carmen and all who knew Cary. He was always a kind and gentle man. He will surely be missed in this world.

Kimberly Saubert
June 28, 2024
I will always remember Cary as a person that was involved, he was kind and thoughtful at all times. One embedded memory of him in all the gatherings it was him asking me how I was and how I felt, you don’t encounter many persons with a caring hearth like you Cary.
You will be remembered!

Melecio Banuelos
June 28, 2024
My deepest condolences to all of you… prayers for strength..

Domenico Colombo
June 28, 2024
I've known Cary since our fraternity days back in 1982, and he was a good friend. We've grown apart especially after he married and moved to California, but he still called me periodically.

Cary worked hard at everything, regarding his health and legal career. I knew he was ill with LOTS but he seemed to be overcoming it. I am so sad to hear about his passing.

My condolences to his family from my wife and me.

Ƙen and Marcia Rapoport

Ken Rapoport
June 28, 2024
I first met Cary in 1983 when I moved to Chicago. A gentle soul and great human being. He would call on occasion. Rest in peace; may your memory be of a blessing. Condolences to family. Will miss you Kato.

Fast & Firm


Arthur Gunn
June 28, 2024
Sending thoughts and prayers. Cary… you will truly be missed. So many good times with the SAMis and you were a part of them! Your sweet smile, gentle nature and kind soul made the world a better place . Rest easy my friend

Karen Malen -Kowalczyk
June 28, 2024
Dear Carmen,
My deepest condolences to you and the Berman family. Cary was a big part of my youth and we learned many life lessons together. We had many mishaps, happy, sad and dynamic moments. You are truly his besherdt, soul mate and companion. He leaned on you and spoke so fondly about you and how you helped him. I was so happy that you came into his life and you were married for so many years. He loved you deeply. He is in Heaven now and not suffering anymore. May his memory be a blessing. God bless you for your kindness.
Warmly, Kathy Jean-Keller

Kathy Jean
June 30, 2024
Peace and light to Cary’s family: He was a very inspiring friend. We attended High School together but only met about 12 years ago when he decided to study Reiki with me. I am glad we got to chat via text about a month ago! His birthday was the same day as both of my parents and baby brother. A very special person indeed. I will always hold fond memories of Cary…

Arlene Zapata
June 30, 2024
Sorry for your loss. I no Cary since grammar school and Junior high and high School. He was a very kind and loving soul.
May his memory be a blessing.

Shari April
June 30, 2024
Dear Nettie, Heidi and family,
I only just heard this devastating news today. My heart is broken for you, as Cary was an amazing man, with such a gentle demeanor and always a warm smile.
I know when I tell Phil this news, he too will share my condolences. We are both so very sorry and offer our condolences. If there is anything at all that you need, please do not hesitate to ask.
Again, you have our sympathies, prayers and love.

Robyn Murov
July 5, 2024