A Jewish Funeral

A Jewish Funeral

Many of the Jewish funeral traditions are familiar to the Jewish people. However, when a death occurs, it can be difficult to remember traditions and the meaning behind them. This section provides an overview of Jewish funeral traditions. For a more comprehensive look, download our guide, A Jewish Funeral.

TAHARA

Traditional preparation of the deceased.
If the family wishes, there may be the Tahara, the ritual washing and purification.

TACHRICHIM

Traditional burial garments. The simple white garment is meant to signify that we are all equal in death and we are judged on our merits and deeds, not material possessions.

ARON

Traditional wooden casket. The wooden casket is designed to respectfully transfer the deceased to the cemetery for burial. Traditional caskets are only made from wood with no metal in their ornamentation or construction and are never manufactured on Shabbat or any of the Holidays.

SHOMER

Traditional Guardian.

Some families wish to have a Shomer, the Hebrew word for “guard”, to sit with the deceased until the time of the funeral. The shomer recites psalms and prayers for the deceased and may also study Torah on their behalf.

Other Jewish Funeral Traditions

THE KRIAH TRADITION

At some point during the funeral, a piece of clothing or a black ribbon is torn and worn as an expression of one’s grief. If the person is mourning the death of a parent, the ribbon/cloth is worn on their left side, over the person’s heart. All other relatives in mourning, which includes siblings, spouse and parents, wear the ribbon/cloth on their right side.

CHILDREN AND FUNERALS

There is no rule that dictates Jewish tradition about children and funerals. Probably the one word that might guide a decision is “appropriate”. This is a personal decision that may change depending upon circumstances. For a more detailed discussion on this topic, download A Jewish Funeral.

CEMETERY TRADITIONS

Pallbearers may carry the casket to the grave. Some people follow the Jewish tradition that calls for the casket to stop seven times on the way to the grave. This is generally determined by the clergy. After final prayers are said, the burial takes place. Here family and friends are invited to shovel earth into the grave. This final act helps mourners with acceptance and closure. El Maleh Rachamim is then recited by the clergy. Mourners recite the Mourner’s Kaddish. The Kaddish is not a prayer of death, but a reaffirmation of life. This prayer is traditionally recited for 11 months less one day for parents.

AFTER THE FUNERAL TRADITION (SHIVA)

After the burial, family and friends return home to “sit Shiva”. Learn more.

THE YAHRZEIT CANDLE TRADITION

Each year on the Jewish anniversary of the death of a loved one, a Yahrzeit candle is lit to commemorate the memory of a loved one. If you are unsure of the Jewish date, contact Chicago Jewish Funerals. We always send a Yartzeit candle prior to the Jewish anniversary of a death. Families light the candle at home the night before because the Jewish days begins in the evening.

THE UNVEILING OF THE HEADSTONE TRADITION

At the time of a burial, no tombstone is placed on the grave. It is a Jewish custom to erect a stone at a later date. Some wait until after Shiva; others wait a year. The ceremony, called Hakamat Matzeiah (raising the stone) is usually short. The family may invite a few friends. The stone is covered with cloth until the “unveiling”. Psalms are recited along with a few thoughts of the deceased.

Other Jewish Funeral Traditions

A complete list is available in our pamphlet, A Jewish Funeral. Click here.

Chevra Kadisha
A Hebrew phrase meaning “Holy Society”; a group of men or women who care for the deceased.

Hesped
A Hebrew word meaning eulogy

Kaddish
A Jewish prayer recited by the mourners in memory of the deceased.

Kever
A Hebrew word meaning grave

Kevura
A Hebrew word meaning burial