Funeral Details

Love you always, Bubby

Isaac Feder

Some years ago, I had the pleasure of taking Selma out for a visit to the kosher grocery store in Florida. Harold was outside the apartment building when I arrived. It was evident how much he adored Selma. He was holding her hand, gently helped her into the car, and told me to be sure to take very good care of her. We visited the store and she made her selections and then insisted she take me out to lunch at the local deli. At both locations, she charmed everyone we encountered with her friendly smiles, her sense of humor (she told a lot of cute jokes), and of course, her Werther’s candies, which she passed out to everyone. It was a joy to spend a special day with her, and I always remember it when I think of her. She was a truly remarkable woman who led a remarkable life. And she left a remarkable family behind. There is a little less sunshine in the world today.

Nancy Cantor

My dear friends Linda and Al Feder asked me if I could be a weekend caregiver to Selma last June. I was nervous to meet Selma and the whole family but quickly realized how friendly and welcoming everyone was. I was amazed by Selma’s stories, sharp wit and sense of humor. She sang me songs, told me jokes and recited poetry to me. It was a pleasure to be with her which made the time pass too quickly. And, of course, I was taught to play Rummikub! The favorite family pastime. I’ve never met a more devoted family as the Feder’s. Judging on the number of visits and phone calls from family and friends I know Selma was so very loved and will truly be missed. Simone Kaufman

Simone Kaufman

When Abbe and Isaac announced their merger in 2009, we were excited about the merger of our families as well. When families come together in marriage, it is a special opportunity to be able to get to know multiple generations and extended families. Gettingto know Selma and Harold Feder was a shining light into acquainting ourselves with the roots of the Burkin-Feder merger which produced the fine young man who was about to be a branch on our own family tree. The bond became even greater when my Mother, Selmaand Harold had the opportunity to meet each other and they developed a fine mutual admiration. We admired and adored Selma for always being ready with an entertaining joke, for her kindnesses, generosity, passion for family and friends, commitment to herfaith, her deep spirituality, passing sweet things from hand to hand and her blending of strong self-determination with a fervent belief in G'd's will.



"Death ends a life, not a relationship. All the memories are still there. You live on in the hearts of everyone you have touched and nurtured while you were here." --Morrie Schwartz, Tuesdays with Morrie



May Selma's memory be for a blessing.



With love, Dennis and Marisha

Marisha Krupkin

I knew Dr. & Mrs. Feder from our involvement at Skokie Valley Synagogue, but became friendlier with Selma while making home nursing visits to Dr. Feder. We all meet many individuals during our lifetimes, and yet there are only a select few that stand out and forever remain in our admiration. Selma made me feel important. She sent me cards, and taught me valuable life lessons that I have taken on as routine habits in my own life. She was so proud of her family. Supporting Jewish causes was her priority, but she also gave to multiple causes in whatever way she was able. What an all around wonderful woman, and truly beautiful soul. The memory of Selma will be an inspiration & blessing to all who were fortunate to know her.

Janet Katz

I'll never forget walking into Skokie Valley Synagogue and Selma's face lighting up as she "met" me. "I remember you as a little child, with your golden curls" she said. Because my family had moved from Dallas while I was still a small child, I had never met anyone who knew me then. I was so happily surprised. My father, Rabbi Milton Rosen a"h married Selma and Harold in Dallas Texas. I was told that Selma taught at my Dad's Hebrew School at Agudas Achim.. I believe she had a beautiful voice and was a great dancer. I remember them dancing at their wedding. I think my Father and Mother told me she was "Miss Hadassah" in Dallas. My Father became a Chaplain in Korea, but never came to Chicago without visiting the"Feders". It was a highlight of his being in town. They were a lovely couple and she was a beautiful lady in every respect. Wishing you comfort in your loss and the loss to so many as we knew both of your parents so well. Carol and Hillel Yampol

Carol and Hillel Yampol

To the family my deepest condolences, I was fortunate enough to have met Selma in my years working with Dr's Harold, Marc, Joel Feder. She was a beautiful woman with a beautiful soul. She was blessed to have lived such a long beautiful life. Now she's with the love of her life, happy and at peace. She had a wonderful family that she raised with kindness, respect and lot's of love. She will live forever through all her children, grandchildren and great grandchildren. She will be forever missed as she leaves an emptiness behind with many broken hearts and a deep sorrow. God bless her and the family in this very difficult time.

With a heavy heart my condolences and prayers to the family. Beautiful service!
Lilian Francia

Lilian Francia

Selma was a very special person. I remember sitting about one or two rows in front of them during Shabbat services. Selma will be missed by all but her legacy will continue living forever.

Ron Weiner

Just attended the beautiful tribute for Bubby. It was presented in the wonderful "Feder style" that Selma and Harold modeled for your family. The words and gestures in the eulogies captured the true essense of who Selma was. There wasn't a dry eye anywhere. I only saw her from time to time but..."to know her at all was to love her."

A few years ago on a Thursday, I happened to see Mrs. Feder at the Hungarian Food Store. Her shopping cart was filled with meat and groceries. I asked her how many guests did she expect for Shabbos. She said there were no planned visitors but you never know.... Amazing. She was always generous with her meals and heart. She was a treasure who will really be missed.

Monica Israel

We were very sad to hear of Selma Feder's passing. She and Doc were two amazing people and we remember them fondly from our long association with Skokie Valley. Although we were at Doc's shiva some years ago, we are sorry we could not join the family and pay our respects in person for Selma. She will always be sorely missed because of her menschkite and good deeds.

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